I’ll be real with you… sometimes, no matter how reasonable and well-intentioned my therapist’s advice is, I just… can’t do it. ‘To be honest, I’m probably not going to follow that advice’ If you’ve found yourself biting your tongue in therapy (perhaps, like me, too concerned with being “likable” or a Good Client), I hope this list of my own blunt confessions will inspire you to lose your therapeutic filter for good.īecause chances are, you still won’t be nearly as awkward as I am.ġ. So much so that I’ve started making it a practice to “speak the unspeakable” as often as I can in my sessions. When I gave myself permission to be brutally honest, we were able to do much deeper, more authentic work together. In fact, the most powerful moments we’ve shared together were when I had the courage to tell him things that I was absolutely convinced I shouldn’t say. Looking back, though, I can see that some of the most important growth I’ve had in therapy actually happened when I stopped trying so hard to please my therapist. Namely, my reluctance to be honest in certain situations, my fear of being criticized or judged by my therapist, and my desire to obscure when I’m struggling (ironic, considering the fact that I started to go to therapy because I was struggling). Therapy is challenging regardless, but I think it’s especially hard for those of us who insist on doing it “perfectly” (spoiler alert: there’s no such thing). One of which is being a relentless perfectionist. And among the many benefits, it’s helped me to identify the areas I still need to grow in.
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